10 ways to deal with the bad days

Some days it seems like nothing can go right. We all have those days where it just seems like there is too much drama. Too much pressure. Too many expectations. Too many things to do, not enough time. Then there’s all the unnecessary nastiness. Some days it’s just all too much!

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It’s days like these that self-care is super important. Sometimes I struggle with this. It’s something I have been trying to focus on lately. So here are a few of the things that make me feel better on those days.

1: Be kind to yourself

This is probably the most important thing. Some days you just need to cut yourself some slack. Would you have the same expectations on someone else that you have on yourself? Why shouldn’t you be as kind to yourself as you would a stranger? There’s only so much you can do and sometimes you just need to be okay with letting things go. It’s alright not to be perfect (see why here).

2: A good old pamper session

By far my favourite thing is to run myself a nice, hot bath, with bath salts, a beautiful candle and a good read. Sadly my unit doesn’t have a bath though. Instead I’ll do a face and hair mask, give myself a mani-pedi or some other make-me-feel-pretty thing. This usually involves some gorgeous scented candles burning in the background.

3: Play some feel good music

What I consider feel good music seems to vary with my mood. Sometimes I want something up beat and pop-y, other times calm and relaxing. Listen to your mood and pick some tunes that suit you. I have a few Spotify playlists that are my go-tos for times like these – let me know if you want me to share.

4: Treat yourself

Come on, who doesn’t love a little (lot?) retail therapy? I usually use it as an excuse to buy myself something little. This is usually something that smells amazing – a scented candle, some new body wash or body butter. I always find this is an instant pick me up.

5: Do some yoga

Yoga is such a good release for me. There’s something about focusing on body positioning, movement, breathing and stillness of the mind that just makes everything else melt away. On days like these, I tend to opt for the chilled out, slow and relaxed Hatha yoga as opposed to Power or Vinyasa sequences. On the really bad ones, this could literally just be an extended period in child’s pose. Really it doesn’t matter all that much what you do, as long as it works for you.

6: Life admin

I always feel better when things are sorted. All those little things you have been putting off, like calling to make appointments, seem like such a big deal on bad days. Sometimes making little steps to move ahead can make it so much less overwhelming. Attending to one or two of those little things can make all the difference. It can make you feel on top of things and is definitely worth the effort.

7: Stick to your routine (as much as possible)

It’s important to maintain some form of normality. If you normally go to the gym every Monday, don’t stop on account of a bad day. Those kind of things can actually help to get you out of that funk. Keeping busy can take your mind off things and give you something positive to focus on instead. Also, you will probably regret it the next day if you don’t.

8: Affirmations

Create a journal or notebook with all the good things. The things you like about yourself. The things you have achieved. The things you are proud of. The things that inspire you. The things you aspire to be. Do this over time when you think of it. Then you can bring it out on a bad day and be reminded of all those positive things. An instant pick me up.

9: Reach out

Make social connections. Invite friends over. Arrange to go out and do something. Even if you can’t organise something right away, knowing you have plans in the future gives you something to look forward to. Otherwise, just have a good chat with old friends can brighten any mood.

10: Chill out

Some tea and a good book. Or maybe Netflix and chocolate is more your speed? Either way, just taking some time out and escaping reality for another world makes a world of difference. You can check out some of my top picks here. Opting for a comedy is a great way to lighten the mood and bring some smiles to that face.

What are your go-tos for a bad day pick me up?

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Inspiration: My top 5 inspo talks

It’s been one of those weeks! I am only just (FINALLY!!!) getting over this sickness that has dragged on for over a week. Feeling drained and behind, sometimes I just need a bit of a pick me up. We all do sometimes. So I thought I would share with you my favourite TED talks to watch when I’m feeling down or needing a little motivation.

1: Isaac Lidsky – What reality are you creating for yourself?

An amazingly eye-opening talk on the power of perception and vision. Isaac challenges you to think critically. Things that once seemed to be objective truths, are cast in the light of your perceptions. He challenges you to think differently, harness inner strength and look at the world through another lens. I find this talk incredibly powerful and makes me feel in control of my own life.

2: Lidia Yuknavitch – The beauty of being a misfit

OMG! For those days where you feel like you just don’t fit in (please tell me I’m not the only one!). I for one often fall into the familiar grasp of self-criticism. This talks helps me to re-evaluate: Find the beauty in the situation and the endless possibilities of life. It challenges me to look for the chances and opportunities available – instead of feeling like I need to fit in. Such a great pick me up (you deserve it).

3: Emilie Wapnick – Why some of us don’t have one true calling

“What do you want to be when you grow up?” I DREADED this question – I still do. When I was in primary school I was torn. My answer was either an astronaut or a waitress. As I grew older this changed, but was more fragmented. All of the options. All of the interesting things, from engineering to painting, law to marketing, sculpture to community, were pulling me towards them. I felt so ostracised because I didn’t want to just choose one thing! This talk embraces this multi-inspired approach and inspires me to how this is good instead of weird.

4: Nonny de la Peña – The future of news? Virtual reality

This absolutely baffles my mind. I find it truly inspiring the amazing ideas people come up with. This is a fabulous and amazing innovation on the way news and events are delivered. Journalistic innovation to drive emotional reactions to stories. While it is a little way off delivering main stream news, it makes me feel like anything is possible.

5: Reshma Saujami – Teach girls bravery, not perfection

I confess I am a bit of a perfectionist. I always just took this for granted. So many of my girl friends also display these traits. I thought nothing of it. This talk really made things click for me. I find socialisation theory pretty fascinating. Reshma raises the idea that this perfectionism isn’t necessarily natural, but rather a result of socialisation. The perspective-shifting talk inspires me to throw away my fear of failure – well try to anyway.

Where do you get inspiration from?

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